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4 Steps to internal freedom! 1 - Know who you are

4 Steps to internal freedom!

1 - Know who you are at your core
This is not about defining yourself by what society says you
are ie mum, sister, women etc this is about knowing who you
are at your core ie strong, resilient, caring, someone
who gets it done etc. When you connect to this version of yourself
you will be less swayed by external factors.

2 - Understand your core belief.
Knowing why do you do what you do...
Most of the time those beliefs are non-supportive. The ones that keep
you from being happy, so find out what is your actual core belief to the
main belief and then break that core belief apart with evidence that
supports it not being true. Ie “I can’t be successful if I’m a single mum -
Find evidence of single women who are successful” If they can, then
you can too.

3 - Recognise social conditioning impact
This is the sneaky weed growing in the garden that you don’t
notice until it has taken over the garden! Social conditioning will
sneak up on you, yet is this what YOU actually believe? Become
consciously aware of what social conditioning is playing out in
your world and how this impacts you. When you understand this,
are ie mum, sister, women this is about knowing who you now!

4 - Know the pain you’re trying to avoid by always ‘needing to be in control’
Generally, this will come from a time in childhood that goes along the lines
of “When I’m not in control bad things happen.” So, therefore (if unrecognized)
you’ll keep living this story out and it will put limitations on your happiness.
To understand where this pain comes from and what is the pain you’re trying
to avoid when you noticed your need for being in control showing up. Yes,
there are times when being in control does serve, so consciously determine
when these times are.

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Put a 🙏🏼 down below if you have ever asked t

Put a 🙏🏼 down below if you have ever asked the universe, your god or powers
above to give you strength?
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Put an 💙 if you’re currently in this space asking for
a strength that you don’t know you have?
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Confidence doesn’t come from lying to yourself,

Confidence doesn’t come from lying to yourself, it comes from knowing yourself!

This fake it till you make it part is only part of the puzzle, sure it’s a throw-away line that has you squash your fear for a moment so you step up and take action... BUT!

This energy is short-lived.

It’s not until you actually spend the time to get to know yourself, building trust in yourself and consciously know how you react and respond to situations that you actually start to develop confidence!

Don’t believe me? Feel like you’re ‘life is too messed up’ I call BS on that, if you’re prepared to step up, I’ll step up too and support you on your journey to that new life!

If you're struggling with this then send the team here at Life With Options a DM to discuss.

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Reliving your pain does not make it go away, it wi

Reliving your pain does not make it go away, it will only intensify it, perhaps you’re aware of this and at the same time unsure how to get out of the pain?

There can be 2 things playing out for you and this can be as a result of past (or current) relationship trauma from either an intimate, friend or career.

😔 The first thing that is playing out is that deep down you have let this event define who you are because you believe that you in some way have deserved this pain.

😔 The second being you haven’t actually got to the cause of the pain to release it and deep down you want to free yourself from it yet you haven’t been able to understand the cause.

Which do you resonate with the most?

Most of the women who join the Path 2 BE Me Program resonate with the second. Yet for them they may have also attempted other methods of support such as therapy that has let them down. So when they come into the program part of them is starting to accept this pain to be part of ‘just who I am’ because therapy has not given them any release, rather just had them relive it all constantly.

Reliving a trauma detail by detail only reinforces it, it doesn’t release it!

And that is one of the reasons why the Path 2 BE Me Program is SO effective! We don’t focus on the surface details, we go straight to the core and transform it from there. In fact you don’t even have to speak about your trauma to be able to free yourself from it!

So don’t let your past experiences from being truly happy and free within!

Enrolments are opening soon so send the team here at Life With Options a DM to discuss if this program is for you!

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This is where you have confidence in one area of y

This is where you
have confidence in one area of your life and not in another.
Generally, if you’re a woman who’s been through an abusive
relationship, you may have lost self-worth in the area of
the relationship you’ve been constantly put down, either told

Note: this is totally normal, the reason for this is within
relationship you’ve been constantly put down, either told
you’re not good enough or every opinion you have has
been challenged and told that you’re wrong. From this
environment, it is only natural to look confident and trust
in yourself which is what self-worth is linked to.

So automatically now you’ve been conditioned to lack
self-worth within the relationship. Generally, what can
then happen as an avoidance mechanism you’ll focus
more on other areas of life as a distraction. And as the
workplace generally has a standard for communication
you may feel seen, heard, and valued which increases your
self-worth within your work.

The danger here is that you’ll continue through life justifying
and avoiding healing what is really at issue here. And until you
have worked through and healed your self-worth within the
space of relationships you will not truly be happy.

So here are 3 tips to help you get started on your way to
becoming truly happy and healing your self-worth within a relationship.

1 - Have a real conversation with yourself,
do you resonate with the above? Because acknowledgment is the
first step to healing this.

2 - Ask yourself what are you most fearful
of finding out about yourself if you were to go through this healing
process. Sometimes the fear can be “that everything they said is true
and that it is all my fault” This is BS and as you answer this question
for yourself, turn into what you know to be true.

3 - Be open to change
because there is a chance this is a deeply ingrained belief you have
about yourself and being open to changing this is going to make it
a smoother and easier process for yourself.

Comment below if you resonate with the above?!

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What is it in life that has you know who you are?

What is it in
life that has you know who you are? Is it the
voices in your head? Is it the feelings in your gut?
Is it the emotions flowing in your body?

For what makes you trust any of these when you
live in a world that can at times make you feel wrong
for believing them, is it your desire for certainty,
direction or even hope in your life?

For what makes you trust any of these when you live
in a world that can at times make you feel wrong for
believing them is it your desire for certainty, direction
or even hope in your life?

And in the end... When you look at yourself in the
mirror of an evening, or for the last time, do you
want to be feeling as you look back at yourself?
Do you want to feel like you have lived a life true
to yourself? Or do you want to know that you’ve
ignored what you believed in an effort to make
everyone else around you happy?

Does this mean that you cannot live a life for others?

No not at all, what it means is that you have to be
sure you’re consciously choosing it to be your truth.
To be what YOU want to do for YOU and not from a
place of needing approval from anyone else.

So in the end, the choice comes back to you...
What do you tune into, to know who you are and to
guide you in your life so that you can look at yourself
in the mirror and be happy with and proud of the you
that is staring back at you?

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I’ve been there before, where I’m unconsciousl

I’ve been there
before, where I’m unconsciously and quietly
screaming out internally for someone to come
and save me. I had lost my high paying mining job,
was going through a major relationship breakup
and mentally I was not in a good place at all.

There were times I wanted to give up and yet still
no one came to save me...

I had pushed away people around me as I felt like
I was the toxic one even though my justification was
that it was them who were toxic.

And there I was all alone, unconsciously that’s exactly
how I wanted it to be as the shame I felt consumed me.

Perhaps you can relate on some level?

Because the reality is that this plays out for more
people then you’d imaging. And if this is you, then
the only thing for you to know is that no one is
coming to save you, it’s up to you to decide to save
yourself!

And in the end, you’ll be stronger for it, happier
because you did and have immense gratitude for
your journey as you’ll finally see the light within
why you went through it.

It’s your life and it’s up to you to create it.

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Do you know what version of you is speaking? Is i

Do you know what version of you is speaking?

Is it the adult? The child? The wounded child?

The past traumatized you? Or _?

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Sweeping it under the rug never worked! Avoidance

Sweeping it under the rug never worked!

Avoidance used to be my only strategy for dealing with anything that was going on in my life that I didn’t like.

I used to bottle it all up until it all boiled over and I would explode 💥

Where it all changed for was:

I acknowledge that this was a strategy that didn’t work for me and I wanted to change
I had got a coach to work through my unconscious stories
I started to put it all into practice, being compassionate when I ‘did it again’
overtime have created a new, healthier habit that supports my desired life’s standards.
The best thing I did at the start was I decided and took action.

In the end, no one is coming to ‘safe’ you, you have to make that decision for yourself. So you can either:

keep having the putty party that is an unhealthy strategy for love and attention.
OR

you can get up, put your adult pants on and decide to make the change in your life!
That’s the ONLY way this is going to happen!

So are you going to keep bottling it up or are you finally going to free yourself from this pain?

The choice is yours!

And if you’re seeking support on your journey, DM me to discuss options.

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You can wish for it to be different and it can be

You can wish for it to be different and it can be different, but right now you are where you are and that’s what you’ve got to work with.

The messy, chaotic outcomes of past decisions and events have brought you to this place.

And that’s ok.

Yet now you’re aware of it you can start to calm your world down and take steps to regain conscious control of your life!

It’s easier than you may think. 💃🏼

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So you did something you're not proud of, you reac

So you did something you're not proud of, you reacted, said something 'silly' or made a 'bad' decision. Your reaction is to beat yourself down...⠀⠀⠀

"How could I be so stupid! I should know better!"⠀

Yet this does nothing other than sending you down the dark emotional hole. Your self-destructive thoughts now have traction. They seem to effortlessly flow from one to the next...⠀⠀⠀⠀

So why do you do this?⠀

Because growing up you heard these words time and time again when you 'did something wrong.'⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Yet the reality is you're human, you make 'learning
lessons' not mistakes. These learning lessons compile to give you a database of wisdom to draw upon the next time you're in the same situation.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

So are you emotionally beating yourself up about some hindsight view you have on something you did?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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If so, take action now. Start to embrace the wisdom to choose a different outcome the next time!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

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You just want to hide... You cannot believe that y

You just want to hide... You cannot believe that you are "that woman..." that woman to have found herself in a toxic relationship.

You've been hiding it from your friends...

You've been keeping it from your family. Instead, the guilt and shame you feel towards yourself eat you up in silence.

It's isolating, you feel like there is no one for you to turn to. That you're all alone on this journey!

Yet the truth is there are many women who are in this exact space, who feel like they too are all alone and are holding on to the shame and guilt that they have found themselves in a relationship that's so toxic.

It's why many women come to me to work with me. Firstly because I am someone external to any of their social circles and secondly as I'm a man. These two aspects feed into the powerful transformation they obtain through the 12-week coaching program.

Learning to heal their relationship trauma, getting the answer for what they've been trying to understand about their partner and having the tools to stand in their True Self, strong and confident!

So know you are not alone on your journey and nor do you have to be. If you're ready to release that guilt and shame, then there are options awaiting you.

Send a DM for more info.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

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When you embody your full essence and step into yo

When you embody your full essence and step into your True Self with full awareness of your True Traits you don't need anyone around you to validate who you are.

You are that validation for yourself!

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3 powerful words that can slow down the panic, the

3 powerful words that can slow down the panic, the momentum gathered when your mind replays the reruns of past traumas. “I am safe.” Allowing yourself to come back to the present moment, to remind your body that you are not currently living these fears out again.

Bringing your mind and body back into alignment.

Breathe deep! And remind yourself “I am safe!"

You are ok, you can and will get through this. 🙏🏼😊 .

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They said it, you didn’t want to listen... yet y

They said it, you didn’t want to listen... yet you can finally see what they have been saying all this time.

It was never meant to work and there will be a time when your future self is grateful for this relationship not working out!

Yet you must walk through the journey back to yourself before this can be all that it can be!

Are you ready to invest in yourself? If so drop “YES” in the comments below.

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You feel guilty for doing it but your soul longs f

You feel guilty for doing it but your soul longs for it...

Are you a woman who finds herself constantly putting other people before yourself? Also sacrificing your own desires and needs is not an empowering place to live. Yes it's about setting boundaries, yes it's about speaking your truth, yes it's about knowing you're worthy and yes it's about not fearing judgment from others.⠀

Yet all of this can sound easy in theory, yet are you a woman who struggles with implementing this in practice?

The biggest reason I see women sacrificing themselves is that they have given their power to the social conditioning around them. They have lost connection with who they truly are, what' their 'True Traits' are and how to own the value of these traits.

Where along your journey did you lose connection with your True Traits and your value?

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How to be more self-compassionate? Forgive yourse

How to be more self-compassionate?

Forgive yourself - For any past 'bad' food or life choices that may have lead to yourself not liking yourself. Forgive yourself and recognise you were simply doing the best you could in those moments.
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Write A Letter To Your Inner Child - Within all of us is an inner child wanting love and attention. If your inner child hasn't been nurtured you may find yourself acting out of character, so write a letter to your inner child to let her know she is supported.
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Reframe Your Negative Self Talk - When you catch your inner voice speaking in a non-supportive way to you about yourself, bring more conscious awareness to this and change the story to be something that is supportive and encouraging!
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Make Time To Connect Within - Either meditation or stillness of some sort is a powerful way to become more self-compassionate with yourself. In a world where it's so easy to be distracted from yourself with everything else that is going on, make the time to be with yourself also.
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If you're struggling with any of this and you're ready to invest in yourself to transform your life then either click the link in our bio and apply for the Path 2 BE Me Program OR send the team here at Life With Options a DM to discuss details further.

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How often do you stop and connect with yourself?

How often do you stop and connect with yourself?

How often do you listen to your conversation within?

How often do you honour yourself?

Finding those quite moments for yourself can be what makes or breaks you...
Sometimes literally, when you're in an environment that is less than supportive it IS important that you find those moments.

So when was the last time you stopped and connected?

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